How to increase romance in married life

On every Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday the wife tries to change the husband. On every Monday, Wednesday and Friday, the husband tries to change the wife. On Sunday, they both try to change their child!! You need to realize that “your partner is perfect. It’s you and you alone who needs to change”. Hence, read this alone without your partner. It does not take two to improve the married life. You can do this alone if you are determined. I mention this because most of you, after reading this article would say, “This guy makes sense. Let’s have my husband/wife read this so that he/she would improve.” which is again trying to change them. Don’t make them read till they start noticing change in you.

How can you call my partner perfect?

At this point most men are thinking, how can you call my wife perfect. She’s not half as smart as me. Trust me friend, if she were any smarter, she would have married a better man. The same applies to the women. They think “My husband isn’t understanding enough or caring enough.” If your husband could have understood you, he would have been smarter than Albert Einsten. There isn’t one man on earth who completely understands his wife. Unless, of course; that man has had a sexual transplant. The point here is that if you do not see your husband/wife as perfect, it only means that you don’t love him/her enough, for nothing is imperfect when seen though the glasses of love. Think about it, every mother has a perfect child. Because she does not judge, does not expect and loves unconditionally.

Once you understand and accept this point, 50% of the improvement process is done.

When I first met Carlos (name changed) his marriage was heading for a divorce. His problem was that his wife would speak on phone for hours with her close male friend. He had even heard her flirting with him. I told him that his wife was perfect and that he was the one who needs to change. Although it took a while to sink in, it wasn’t long before he completely changed his attitude towards the situation. He loved his wife unconditionally and sometimes even went on to make soup for her or cuddle her while she was using the phone!! His wife was touched and she started reciprocating. She found her best friend in her husband. Phone became too insignificant an issue to matter before their love. I hope you understand how a simple change in attitude can make life happier.

Some like the mango green; some like it yellow. A mango tastes different during different times. Likewise, it is natural that the early and later part of your relationship be different. In the early part, you are strangers, there is curiosity, thrill and excitement, but less commitment and understanding. As time passes, the curiosity and excitement fades off but trust and understanding builds up. It would be in your best interest if you stop comparing with your past and start enjoying the freshness present has to offer.

The course of action for improvement in romance is different for different sex. Please read only the one that belongs to you to avoid any expectations from your other half.

For Men:

1. Listen to your wife.

Men are generally blessed with better logic then their wife and hence they make most of the decisions for the family, sometimes ignoring the opinion of the wife altogether. What they forget is that women have better intuition. Intuition is the voice of God and it always turns out to be right. Although at first it may seem that what your wife is saying is funny, ridiculous or impossible it shall always turn out to be the best. This practice also keeps the ego in check

2. Smile

When you frown, you give your family an impression that you are not happy with your life. You must realize that everybody in your family looks up to you and if you act miserable, there is now way they can be happy. Your wife, specially be in constant conflict with herself about what’s bothering you. Start smiling. Start smiling now. Read the rest of the document with a smile. Drive with a smile. Work with a smile. An artificial smile would do. The important thing is to get into habit. What? People will think you are crazy? No, they’ll think you are happy.

3. When she’s discussing a problem, don’t offer solution, offer compassion.

This is where most men have been going wrong for ages. Men feel that when a woman is discussing a problem at her work or at home, she needs a solution. What she really needs is your compassion and the all important hug.

For Women:

1. Show him that he is smart.

Constantly appreciate him for his intellectual of physical accomplishments. It need not even be an accomplishment, but you can pretend as it is. Your husband, for example, repairs the leaking tap. “I cannot believe you did it honey!! I was worried I would have to call the plumber! You are so good with these tools.” When he says, “Aah., that was nothing!”, you know he is in your basket! You could even go ahead and say, “I was having problem with fridge. Can you repair it too?”

2. Laugh on his jokes

You won’t believe the importance of this! After 2 or 3 years of marriage, you are almost completely familiar with his sense of humor and you can almost predict what is he going to say, and when. And then comes repetition. It’s almost as if he’ll repeat the same jokes on every Mondays and Tuesdays and Wednesays… but you must have a hearty laugh on each one. What’s the harm in laughing? Laughter, be it fake or real is the best medicine. Slowly, you’ll even find that the jokes become funnier.

3. Give him utmost respect in front of people

Yes, men have egos. So, let it be between you and your husband that you are the boss!! And let the outer world feel that you are a sincere, obedient wife.

1. Are these four points enough. I was expecting more like, “surprise her with gifts, take her out for candle light dinner, etc”

They happen automatically once you start implementing the above.

2. When will I start getting results?

You will start getting results the instant you have finished reading this. Just keep the smile on your face and accept him/her as perfect. The best practice is to follow Kaizen (small steady steps for improvement). Write down the results in improvement of relationship toady and tomorrow and so on. When you write it you are sending yourself the signals that life is changing for the better. And soon enough, you’ll have the best relationship possible.

3. What if my problems don’t get solved by this.

This has worked for thousands of people I have counseled. I absolutely guarantee that it will work. You can still mail me if you have doubts. I provide absolutely free counseling online.

CLOSING NOTE: DON’T BELIEVE WHAT I HAVE SAID, DON’T DISBELIEVE ME EITHER. BE NEUTRAL. JUST TRY THIS AND SEE THE REULTS.